Reposting this oldie but goodie from several months ago...enjoy!
What is happening to the American family?
Why is raising children seen as just a past time?
I was reading an article, where the person being interviewed said that growing up, her mother was a stay at home mom. And a good one at that.
Yet when she reached adulthood, she looked at her mom, and said,
"But what did she DO with her life?"
Pause.
I had to read that a few times to really believe what I was reading.
"What did she DO with her life?"
{For starters- she raised you.}
She fulfilled the job that motherhood calls us to do.
Raise our children.
Wholeheartedly.
Now, I don't usually get involved in debates about stay at home moms. I understand some have to work for financial reasons. I am not judging anyone who works.
But my problem with this article was that it made it sound like this poor mom wasted her life being a stay at home mom.
And this is where I wonder what has become of the American family.
To now see that raising children is a waste of a life.
Raising children has become a past time in our society. We "have" babies. We get all the cute "stuff" that goes along with having them. It's like they are an accessory.
Then if we actually choose to be a stay at home mother, wife and homemaker, we are wasting our life.
Raising the future generation is pretty important!
The sad reality is, if I were to have my babies, then pay someone to watch them all day, while I went off to work...that seems to some to be success.
Yet, I have chosen to embrace the blessings God has bestowed on me and raise them- pour my life into them.
Being a mom to me is the ultimate success.
I work my hardest everyday to raise my children, homeschool them, and nurture them. I enjoy being with them and teaching them.
There are big sacrifices on being home, especially financially.
But it isn't even about me anyway...
it is about living for HIM and what He has called us to do.
and I will continue to "just be a mom..."
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm all the days of her life.
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things,but you surpass them all.”
Proverbs 31:10-12;25-31
4 comments:
I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Homemaking and mothering is not easy, and sometimes it feels like there is not a lot of support for it. Thank God for like-minded women who can support one another. May the Lord bless you for being a mom-at-home for your children.
I agree with your post. It's hard for society to appreciate SAHM because there is no way to really quantify our success: We don't get pay raises or awards or advancements that we can point to and say, "Hey, look what I did!" But if we are invested in the Lord's work with our children and in our homes, then we can point to them as proof of our success. My mom, a SAHM of two, is a great success story in my eyes, maybe not society's, because she raised two Christian children who love the Lord and who are raising their own children in Him. Thanks for this thought-provoking post.
Thank you. I am a SAHM but am surrounded by working moms(all of whom are wonderful and I think the world of). I hate the question, "So what do you do?" I respond, "I am a mom." Sometimes they look startled and change the topic and one time a mom responded, "Well... that is what you are... but what do you DO?" I found it a depressing question because how do I explain that I build a home and raise children and I think that is DOING a lot?
This is all so true- the post and comments. It isn't easy, but it is soul-filling. As a little girl all I wanted was to be a wife and mom at home with kids. Career was never a draw for me. I attribute the root of my desire to be because my mom was home with us.
It's funny, I am home with my children, but I am also a single mom, work from home, and a homeschooling mom. Even though I am able to be home with my children, I ache to be "just" a mom and wife. {I have learned my desire was more than "just" to be home with my kids. :-)} I am here physically with them, but I wish I could be here more emotionally. My kids are good kids and understand, but some days I really struggle with the thought they are missing out on so much. My thoughts lately have turned to being a more deliberate mom - and it's hard! Thankfully, we have a Heavenly Father we can lean on.
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